Tuesday 29 November 2011

Moving with Kids Before and After Part One



Moving with Kids- Before and After ~ Part One

Moving can be stressful for everyone, particularly children. While we recognize this for older kids and teens, sometimes we can be lulled into thinking that moving is not a “big deal” for young children. While each child is different, this is not always the case.

However, a little thinking ahead and careful parenting can make even the farthest move less painful for your children. Here are some tips – this week we’ll discuss what to do before moving to make the transition smoother.

Clear and Open Communication

Speak to your children as clearly and as age appropriately as possible about the upcoming changes. People only like surprise parties – not life changes! Keeping things from them to protect them from feeling bad doesn't work. They need time to process and prepare themselves, just like you do.

Involve Them in the Process

Involving your children in the move will give them a sense of control. Whether it is as simple as packing and labeling boxes, looking at pictures on MLS or sketching out the room out layouts, getting your children involved in the process will make them more excited about moving.

Expressing Their Feelings

It is important to give your children permission to express their disappointment, anxiety and excitement about the upcoming move. Validate what they are feeling rather than telling them not to be negative or angry, but encourage them that things will get easier. Also, often children have trouble discussing what they’re feeling. Be on the look out for changes in their behaviour and let them know you are there for them to talk to.

Come back next week for Part Two of Moving with Kids-Before and After


By: Sharon Osvald and Andrew Brown

Tuesday 22 November 2011

Make Yourself At Home


Moving to a new home, particularly in a new community is exciting, but also difficult. It is normal to feel homesick for your old surroundings, friends or family. Here are some tips to help you hit the ground running.

Get Out There. Unless you are naturally extroverted, a normal reaction after a move is to stay home and hide. For some making new connections – even something as simple as finding a new grocery store – can be very stressful. Push past this feeling because the sooner you bond with your new community the happier you will be. Get out there and claim “your” new mall, dentist office, gym or place of worship.

Recognize it will get easier. This may sound like shallow advice to a person who is grieving lost relationships, memories and opportunities, but knowing there truly is a light at the end of the tunnel should help. Anyone who has moved will say it was tough at first but looking back they “made it” and you will too. Hold on through this process. It will get easier.

Make your house your home. Whether you are renting a small studio apartment or have bought a sprawling home, it is important to make your mark on the new space. Often the prints or decorations that worked in your old home don’t really go in the new place. Hang up pictures, if you are allowed to paint your comfort colour or get a new bedspread. It doesn’t have to be expensive to add those touches that make you feel at home again.

Find a way to make an impact in your new community. Getting involved or active by helping someone else is a great way to find your groove in a new place. Signing up to coach your kid’s soccer team, delivering Meals on Wheels or volunteering at a school program are good examples of ways to find your new sense of purpose and to build relationships.

Before you know it you will find yourself at home.

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By: Sharon Osvald and Andrew Brown

Tuesday 15 November 2011

Moving Day




The moment you have been waiting for, both with excitement and dread is upon you. It is moving day. There is so much to do and remember. Here are some tips to help you get through the day successfully.

  • Clear communication is key to a happy and successful move. Whether you’re using a moving company or your two brothers and five best friends, it is important that you communicate clearly what everyone’s role is and who is to take care of what, when and where.
  • Assign “point people” – one at the residence you are leaving and one where you are arriving. The first point person will make sure everything is packed and loaded in the right order. You don’t want to pack all the furniture first and then boxes or at arrival time you’ll have a house full of boxes with no room to place your furniture. This point person will also document that everything did in fact get packed up, cleaned up and closed up.
  • The second point person is the one who meets the movers at the new home. This person should be quickly checking the arriving boxes, furniture and directing it to the appropriate room. You don’t want to discover after everyone has gone home that your heavy antique bedroom dresser was placed in the basement rather than on the second floor where you need it.
  • If you did not use a professional mover be prepared to feed and water your movers when they are finished. It is good form to treat these tired helpers with pizza or some kind of food for their effort.
  • And these last two remember (from the last post) to have your “kit” for each member of your family. Children will want to travel with their favourite stuffed animals, books, videogames, small toys and snacks. Adults will also want to pack comfort items as well as any jewelry, money, important documents and plants to travel with them.
  • Be mindful to have your “Last Day” Kit handy, making sure these are the last items to leave your home and the first items needed at the new place. Items should include: a first aid kit, hammer, nails, screwdrivers, screws, tape, toiletries, cleaning supplies, a vacuum or broom, paper towels. Keep this aside- it will be needed.
  • Enjoy your new home

By: Sharon Osvald and Andrew Brown

Wednesday 9 November 2011

The Week of Your Move

The Week of Your Move:

There are so many things to think of before a move. Here are some ideas that might make this last week less chaotic and more productive.

  • Finish packing! As crazy as that sounds we’ve all offered to help move people only to arrive and find their cupboards are still full of food and glass knick-knacks sitting on their coffee table. Don’t be one of these people. If you can’t do the packing yourself ask people specifically ahead of time to help you.
  • The day before your move defrost your fridge and clean it. This is also a good time to pull out your fridge and dryer and give it a good clean behind it.
  • Drain the gas from your lawn mower, snow blower or any other item powered by gas or kerosene.
  • If you have not already, arrange for childcare and pet care if necessary the day of your move.
  • If possible take apart large items like computer desks or sectional sofas. This will make it easier to fit them in the truck and move them.
  • If you have not already, make sure you have good sturdy boxes, pack and label boxes by room. This makes things so much easier at the new residence.
  • Wrap fragile items individually and tightly. If you’ve run out of newspaper or tissue paper, extra towels and pillowcases are great for wrapping.
  • Large garbage bags are great for packing linens, comforters and bulky winter clothing.
  • Pack all linens and draperies together and mark clearly. (This should be one of the last things on your truck).
  • Create a “kit” for each member of your family. Children will want to travel with their favourite stuffed animals, books, videogames, small toys and snacks. Adults will also want to pack comfort items as well as any jewelry, money, important documents and plants to travel with them.
  • Create a “Last Day” Kit. These should be the last items to leave your home and the first items needed at the new place. Items should include: a first aid kit, hammer, nails, screwdrivers, screws, tape, toiletries, cleaning supplies, a vacuum or broom, paper towels. Keep this aside- it will be needed.


By: Sharon Osvald and Andrew Brown

Tuesday 1 November 2011

Moving 101 continued

 
Two or Three Weeks Before Your Move:


As your moving dates gets closer, here are a few things to consider.

  • If you haven’t booked your mover be sure to do so now. When choosing a moving company, talk to your friends and ask who moved them. Find out what the service was like and if they were reliable and affordable. Another idea is talk to your superintendent. They see a lot of movers and get to know the good ones and the ones to avoid. Also, check the Better Business Bureau website. They keep track of complaints and whether or not the mover resolves issues peacefully or just ignores complaints. Another place to check is the Canadian Association of Movers. They can direct you to some certified movers.
  • If you’re moving yourself verify truck rental arrangements. Also, confirm moving details with friends or relatives to avoid unpleasant surprises on moving day.
  • Try to pack everything you can live without. Things always get chaotic at the last minute. The more you have done now the less stressful it will be for you later.
  • Create a master list of items you have packed and categorize what room they will be placed in. This will make unpacking a lot easier. It will also help you to know if anything went missing in the process. Record the number of boxes you packed.
  • Verify start dates for services at your new residence- telephone, electric, gas, water and Internet services.
  • If you are relocating begin researching the amenities at your new location – gymnasiums, schools, places of worship, vets. Etc. This will make the transition easier.
  • Begin to use up or safely dispose of flammable items, oil based paints, bleach, cleaning supplies and lighting fluids that are not safe to move.
  • If applicable ask your doctor/dentist to have your medical records transferred.
  • Take back any library books or videos.
~More tips from Andrew Brown next week.
By: Sharon Osvald and Andrew Brown