Moving with Kids- Before and After ~ Part One
Moving can be stressful for everyone, particularly children. While we recognize this for older kids and teens, sometimes we can be lulled into thinking that moving is not a “big deal” for young children. While each child is different, this is not always the case.
However, a little thinking ahead and careful parenting can make even the farthest move less painful for your children. Here are some tips – this week we’ll discuss what to do before moving to make the transition smoother.
Clear and Open Communication
Speak to your children as clearly and as age appropriately as possible about the upcoming changes. People only like surprise parties – not life changes! Keeping things from them to protect them from feeling bad doesn't work. They need time to process and prepare themselves, just like you do.
Involve Them in the Process
Involving your children in the move will give them a sense of control. Whether it is as simple as packing and labeling boxes, looking at pictures on MLS or sketching out the room out layouts, getting your children involved in the process will make them more excited about moving.
Expressing Their Feelings
It is important to give your children permission to express their disappointment, anxiety and excitement about the upcoming move. Validate what they are feeling rather than telling them not to be negative or angry, but encourage them that things will get easier. Also, often children have trouble discussing what they’re feeling. Be on the look out for changes in their behaviour and let them know you are there for them to talk to.
Come back next week for Part Two of Moving with Kids-Before and After
By: Sharon Osvald and Andrew Brown